Kimberly and Usman are dealing with complicated feelings on Before The 90 Days, but the American mother has crossed many lines and boundaries.
Kimberly Menzies and Usman “Sojaboy” Umar have been airing a very unconvincing connection on 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days season 5, and it's clear to some viewers that it was a mistake to cast the American mother. While fans are eager to meet new international couples, Usman was the only returning cast member who came back following his divorce from Lisa Hamme. Kimberly and Usman's "relationship" has been a disaster, leaving many 90 Day Fiancé franchise fans shocked by the lack of boundaries Kimberly exhibits when it comes to pursuing the rapper.
Usman and Kimberly met online after Kimberly became a major fan of the African musician. Though Kimberly wants to marry the significantly younger man, Usman invited her to meet with him while he filmed a music video so they could potentially explore a future. Usman considers Kimberly a "potential girlfriend" but made it clear that he does not want to be intimate with her unless they are dating. However, Kimberly has plied Usman with expensive presents and has been tirelessly trying to convince him to get into bed with her. Though Usman finally agreed to spend the night in Kimberly's room, her uncomfortable pursuit of him has left many Before The 90 Days viewers very much not entertained.
While Kimberly has demonstrated that she doesn't respect Usman's boundaries all season thus far, she was on her all-time worst behavior in the most recent episode. Usman arrived in Kimberly's room for a second night together and was immediately faced with a fight when an enraged Kimberly demanded sex from him until he left the room. When Usman eventually returned, Kimberly brought her son into the conversation and said that he would be mad at Usman for not making her happy. Overall, Kimberly demonstrated that she is manipulative and demanding and feels entitled to being with Usman despite him saying no because she traveled to see him. Many viewers are tired of constantly seeing cast members behaving badly, such as the notorious franchise regular Big Ed Brown.
Another reason why TLC shouldn't have cast Kimberly is that many viewers did not need to see more of Usman. While Kimberly is in the wrong for her pushy behavior, viewers largely believe that Usman is toying with her emotions by stringing her on. Since he doesn't expressly tell Kimberly he won't be with her and always alludes to a potential future romance with her, Kimberly continues to pursue the rapper. Franchise fans believe that Usman used Kimberly to continue his franchise run. Overall, 90 Day Fiancé fans don't connect with the rapper and find his storyline to be lacking as it takes away from being able to see an actual international relationship that involves genuine feelings and a potential future. Therefore, TLC missed the mark when they decided to feature Kimberly and Usman's uncomfortable situation.
Many of the Before The 90 Days viewers were excited when TLC announced that season 5 would feature seven new couples and only Usman as a returning cast member. Since the recent franchise spin-off shows have featured the same couples and recycled plot lines, viewers have been eager for new stories and faces. However, multiple season 5 cast members have been called out for pressuring their partners for sex and not respecting their boundaries. In addition to Kimberly, both Memphis Sandoval and Alina Kozhevnikova are being criticized by 90 Day Fiancé: Before The 90 Days viewers for their lack of boundaries and intimacy pressure.
