My wife doesn’t know I’ve been longing to be a woman since I was a teen
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE always wanted to be a woman . . . but how do I break the news to my wife?
She knows I like to wear her knickers and tights sometimes, but she doesn’t know that I’ve longed to be a girl since I was a teen.
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I’m 52, my wife’s 51 and we’ve been together since we were 19.
She caught me wearing her underwear a few years ago – she walked in the bathroom as I was undressing.
She didn’t seem fazed, she said she knew that it was a turn-on for some men.
I was so blown away by how accepting she was that I didn’t want to push it.
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What she doesn’t know is that I spend hours imagining myself as a woman.
I often look at the girls in her magazines and envy how comfortable they seem in their skin.
I have a box, hidden at the back of my wardrobe, full of clothes and accessories I’ve collected over the years.
I’ve never worn them, though. I will one day, but only when I look like who I feel I really am.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your wife sounds very accepting. I’m sure she would hate the fact you’re hiding who you really are.
My support pack Raising Self-Esteem has some tips to help you feel more confident before you speak to her.
It also might help beforehand to reach out to the Beaumont Society (beaumontsociety.org.uk, 0300 330 5468) where you can get anonymous support and advice.