How can I find a life partner if I never feel turned on by anyone?
DEAR DEIDRE: HOW can I find a life partner if I never feel turned on by anyone?
I haven’t fancied anyone enough to have sex with them for years, though I am a single woman in my thirties.
I’d like to have children one day but at this rate it’s not going to happen.
It was the other way round in my twenties – it took very little for me to start lusting for someone.
But now nothing turns me on about men – or women.
During my recent attempts, I couldn’t even look at the other person and we’ve abandoned it because it didn’t “feel right”.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You should have a medical check in case there’s a hormonal problem.
But also everything changed as you got into your thirties and felt the pressure to find a long-term partner.
That pressure and anxiety could be blocking your sexual responses.
If your own childhood wasn’t happy, thoughts about starting a family could bring up difficult memories and feelings.
Talk it out with a counsellor – my e-leaflet How Counselling Helps explains more.