DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancée insisted on staying with her family in the Philippines after our holiday together and has now been unable to fly back because of coronavirus.
I’m so fed up.
We met when I was working over there and we’re getting married later this year.
I am 47 and she is 29.
She wanted to visit her family alone for a month but I said I couldn’t live without her all that time and so I’d take a holiday to be with her for the first two weeks.
She insisted on staying on afterwards, as she said she needed time alone with her family without having to worry about entertaining me.
I got back just before lockdown. Her flight was cancelled and she says she’s too scared to leave her family.
So I’m stuck here without her and resent the way she insisted on having this time alone with her family.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I can understand you feel lonely but use this time to reflect on the balance in your relationship.
You sound focused on her meeting your needs but lack insight into hers.
Make sure you talk every day and listen to her feelings.
It will bring you closer and strengthen your relationship in future.
