My wife says she doesn’t want sex or love me anymore but wants to stay together for our kids
DEAR DEIDRE: THOUGH my wife says she doesn’t want sex with me and doesn’t love me anymore, she wants to stay for our kids, who are six and eight.
She says she doesn’t hate me – that her feelings towards me are neutral.
I am 37 and she is 35. We have been together for ten years.
I’m still in love with her and I have enjoyed sex with her.
But I am devastated at what she has told me and want to sort things out.
What should I do to regain her affection and for us to live again as a romantic couple?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Kids do benefit if their parents can stay together – but only happily, not miserably.
Your wife’s feelings for you haven’t died out of the blue, for no reason.
Ask her to be honest with you, and promise to listen calmly.
Then see if together you can make changes which rebalance your relationship.
My e-leaflet How To Light Her Fire can help.
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