I’m longing for another baby but I’m too scared to stop taking my breast cancer medication
DEAR DEIDRE: I LONG for another baby but that would mean stopping the tamoxifen I’m taking after having breast cancer.
I’m 34 and my husband is 39. We have a son aged eight.
I am lucky to have an amazing, supportive man and a beautiful son but was gutted when my life plans were spoilt by the diagnosis.
We have a big family around us and lots of friends having second and third kids.
It is hard to sit back and watch.
My doctor says I can take a break in my medication but I am scared to stop.
My best friend has just had another baby and I couldn’t look at the photos on social media.
She realised I wasn’t leaving comments and now she is upset.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Tell your friend how distressed you are. I’m sure she will understand if you explain.
Taking tamoxifen in early pregnancy can cause birth defects so it’s important not to get pregnant while on it.
But if you have been on tamoxifen for at least two years, you are at no greater risk if you have a break in medication.
Be guided by your doctor but talk to Macmillan Cancer Support (macmillan.org.uk, 0808 808 0000).
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