DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE our youngest was born eight months ago, I’ve been a total zombie. I’ve barely slept in a month. My husband pretends I’m fine and doesn’t help at all with our two boys. He says he’s earning the money to pay for us all. I told him caring for two little boys is much […]
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE our youngest was born eight months ago, I’ve been a total zombie. I’ve barely slept in a month.
My husband pretends I’m fine and doesn’t help at all with our two boys. He says he’s earning the money to pay for us all.
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I told him caring for two little boys is much harder than going to work but it doesn’t register with him.
We’re in our mid-twenties but I get off to bed as soon as our sons are settled.
I tell my husband I’d have more energy for him if he helped out more but he just makes a joke of it.
I want to distance myself from this self-centred man.
DEIDRE SAYS: Young kids and lack of sleep play havoc with relationships.
It can be make-or-break time.
Spell out to your husband he must stop joking and realise what is at stake.
Say quietly and firmly you need more help.
Get relatives onside if he won’t listen.
You can find support through Home-Start, which assists young families feeling challenged (home-start.org.uk).
And get help for your marriage through Tavistock Relationships (tavistock relationships.org).
