My ex had sex with another guy but I have only my constant moaning to blame
DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my ex but I kept getting at her.
Now she’s had sex with another guy but I know I have only myself to blame.
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We have a beautiful little girl who is nearly two and we were together for two years until ten months ago. She is 26, I am 24.
We were arguing non-stop and both unhappy. We split for a few months and then got back together to try again. We both wanted it to work out.
I threw it all away by niggling at her again. I criticised her for little things I know were not important. I regret it now.
We split but stayed friends for our daughter’s sake.
Now I’ve heard she slept with a guy on a drunken girls’ night out. I’m very hurt but I don’t blame her. I’m begging her for one last chance. How can I win her back?
DEIDRE SAYS: You could not stop criticising your ex and the chances are it is a pattern of behaviour you grew up with. Is that what your parents were like?
Getting insight can help you change. It will show your ex you are serious if you arrange counselling.
Meanwhile, be a hands-on dad to show how much you love them both.
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