My husband and I have tried everything but he still can’t get an erection
DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though we are in our fifties my husband and I both want a good sex life – but he has erection problems.
Foreplay is no problem but his erection disappears as soon as he comes near me.
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He has tried Viagra but it did not help.
He says he wants sex and thinks about it a lot but he just gives up.
I am a willing partner and I don’t want to lose the closeness we have.
But he will not see his doctor or talk to anyone about this.
He is 59 and I am 56.
Our love life is the one thing we have never had trouble with in the past.
DEIDRE SAYS: It can help if you stop making your sex life revolve around intercourse.
There is a lot of other sexual pleasure to be had and you might both feel happier if you concentrate on other ways of sharing pleasure and satisfaction.
Read my e-leaflet Great Sex At Any Age for ideas.
Your husband should see his GP for a health check.
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