It’s been three years since I split with my wife and I’m still a shadow of my former self
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife kicked me out after she discovered I’d had an online fling – the third she found out about.
It was conducted through a messaging app. There was never any sex, no kissing or touching, but my wife rightly said it was cheating.
I’ve spent the past three years trying to be a better person and move on but I feel stuck in the past.
I’m 42 and my wife is 39.
We were married for 15 years.
Life seems to be passing me by.
I’m becoming more and more anxious, frustrated and depressed by my inability to be even a little bit positive.
My wife has a new partner and a new baby, whereas I’m a shadow of my former self with zero confidence.
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DEIDRE SAYS:
See your GP in case you are developing clinical depression but try self-help too.
You learned a tough lesson third time around and self-pity is keeping you stuck, but stems from focusing on yourself.
Think what you can do for others in a much worse place than you.
Check out do-it.org to discover how you can help in your area.
Or volunteer through your work, especially if you have specialist skills.