DEAR DEIDRE: I CAUGHT my girlfriend using the phone I was paying for to carry on a relationship with another man.
We had a bust-up and when her family found out about us rowing, they told me she’d been dating this guy for around six months.
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I broke it off with her but now suffer with depression.
My confidence is zero and I am smoking and drinking a lot.
I know I need help because of how she’s treated me but everyone just thinks I am being stupid.
Am I?
DEIDRE SAYS: You are acting self-destructively but your ex mistreated you so no wonder you’re angry.
Anger can turn inward and morph into depression.
But you can turn this hurt around. See your GP but also decide this is a chance to overhaul your lifestyle.
Stop smoking and drinking and set a goal, like running a 10k race or helping a charity.
See my e-leaflet Defeating Depression too.
