I cheated on my wife a few times and now her sex drive has completely died

DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my wife but she doesn’t want sex any more. She seems to feel it’s no big deal but it’s ­massive to me.

We’ve been married eight years but have been going through a bad patch lately.

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I know I’ve been winding her up without meaning to and it makes me so sad that we are not getting on.

I’ve always had a high sex drive but hers doesn’t match. It’s fallen even more over time and we haven’t had sex in six months now.

We’re in our early 30s and still have a laugh when we’re in the right mood but it feels like we are simply good friends and just living together for the sake of our six-year-old son.

She says she doesn’t know why her sex drive has died. I’m worried it’s because I’ve cheated on her a few times.

Should I try new things in bed? I love her to bits but can’t cope without sex.

DEIDRE SAYS: First, there’s a big can of worms staring me in the face – your cheating. You say you love her, so why cheat?

Having different sex drives is a big cause of marital stress but cheating will just make things worse. It may be the hurt that’s killed her sex drive.

Show your love by working on the problem. My e-leaflets Different Sex Drives and Cheating, Can You Get Over It? will help.

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