My boyfriend wants me to go to a swingers’ club for sex because he can’t get an erection

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says he’ll take me to a swingers’ club for sex if he can’t sort out his erection problems.

We met on a dating site and had a strong connection. I’m 28 and he is 31.

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My boyfriend’s been having erectile problems and now he’s suggested I go to a swinger’s club for sex[/caption]

He has had erection problems for a while. But he wants a future with me and decided to see a specialist.

If the specialist can’t sort it, he suggested I go to a swingers’ club. I couldn’t believe he’d share me.

Should I put the marriage plans on hold?

DEIDRE SAYS:  He may mean well. Your boyfriend feels a failure as a man but you are right to be wary.

Swinging often wrecks relationships. Tell him you love him, not his erection.

You two can share sexual pleasure and satisfaction without intercourse. But he must see a doctor. The issue could signal an underlying medical problem that needs treating.

If he gets the all-clear, it is likely to be him feeling the pressure to perform – but tell him to avoid porn, which can have a deadening effect.

My e-leaflet Your Man Losing His Erection? explains how you can help build up his sexual confidence.

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