DEAR DEIDRE: SEX is fantastic when my partner is in the mood but those times are too far apart. I have tried everything to change her attitude but nothing works. When I ask for sex she usually calls me a pest and a pervert. I want to try sex toys, dressing up and role-play but […]
DEAR DEIDRE: SEX is fantastic when my partner is in the mood but those times are too far apart.
I have tried everything to change her attitude but nothing works. When I ask for sex she usually calls me a pest and a pervert.
I want to try sex toys, dressing up and role-play but she says she can’t be bothered.
I said perhaps she should go to the doctor to ask for something like female Viagra and she got very angry and upset. We have been together for 12 years and are only in our late 30s.
I hate to think that it might be like this for ever.
DEIDRE SAYS: Putting pressure on her will not help. She will be even less likely to want sex. Instead, ask her what has changed for her. If she is too tired, ask what you can do to help her so that she has more time to relax.
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