DEAR DEIDRE: I WAS looking for a screwdriver in my husband’s work bag and I found a secret mobile phone.
I looked at the texts and realised he has been going to massage parlours for six months. I confronted him and he admitted it but swears he has not had full sex there.
He says it started when I went away for a few days with my sister. He claims he was just looking for relaxation.
He is 46 and has suffered from PTSD since he served in the Iraq War. He says he feels numb inside and unable to open up to me.
I am 45 and have organised to have a sexual health check. I have insisted be gets checked, too. I want to sort this out between us but how can I trust him?
DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband may have been feeling that he ought to manage the PTSD on his own but he needs to get help urgently to deal with it.
Tell him calmly that you love him and want him to feel well again and that he should contact Talking2Minds who help people suffering from PTSD (talking2minds.co.uk, 07917 126 708).
Be firm he must stop using massage parlours.
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