DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL like a new woman after a weekend of passion with my husband and can’t keep my hands off him – but he turned me down last night.
We have been happily married for five years. I am 34, he is 36.
He used to want sex every night but I lost all interest two years ago. We then went away for a romantic break last week to try to revive our sex life – and it worked.
We had sex every night and I feel like a new woman. Every time I look at him now I want to have sex with him. I feel like I did when I first met him.
The passion is back and that’s great but he wasn’t interested when I tried it on with him last night.
Is it because he is worn out with being back at work? Or is it because the roles have reversed and he doesn’t like it?
DEIDRE SAYS: You and I can only guess at why, so best ask him.
Say you don’t want him to feel under pressure, and ask what put him off last night and how you can get better in tune with one another.
Perhaps you could take alternate nights to say whether you want sex, and to agree to go along with what the other wants.
My e-leaflet on Different Sex Drives will help you find a better balance.
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