DEAR DEIDRE: IS it fair I don’t want my husband’s family in our daughter’s life because they are totally messed up? His mum is the most self-centred person I have ever met. My husband had problems with alcohol and she never supported him but I helped him stop drinking. He has done well for himself […]
DEAR DEIDRE: IS it fair I don’t want my husband’s family in our daughter’s life because they are totally messed up?
His mum is the most self-centred person I have ever met. My husband had problems with alcohol and she never supported him but I helped him stop drinking.
He has done well for himself since but she resents his success.
She never liked me and has done her best to break us up. I am 27, my husband is 29. We have a 14-month-old daughter.
My mother-in-law refused to come to the christening and would not let any of their family come. She ignored us for a year but has now decided she wants to be in our baby’s life.
I am fine with my husband rebuilding their relationship but I do not trust her to behave appropriately with our daughter.
DEIDRE SAYS: If your husband would like his mother to see your child, objecting might create bad feeling which wouldn’t be good for your daughter.
Be very clear, though, that your daughter is the vulnerable one here and needs protecting.
Make it a dealbreaker that you are always there too, even if you have to grit your teeth.
My e-leaflet on Standing Up For Yourself will help.
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