DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER finding racy photos on my boyfriend’s phone, I went off on one – and now he wants nothing to do with me. We were only together for two months but everything seemed so right. I am 26 and have been cheated on before but he reassured me he was different so we […]
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER finding racy photos on my boyfriend’s phone, I went off on one – and now he wants nothing to do with me.
We were only together for two months but everything seemed so right.
I am 26 and have been cheated on before but he reassured me he was different so we went official. He is 28.
I sent him some intimate pictures and he said they were very special.
I laughed and said, “Show me” – but then on his phone I saw some nude photos of his previous girlfriend.
He said they were from ages ago but I kicked off. I told him he is not worth the hassle. He said he didn’t want the hassle either and ended it.
I have bombarded him with texts since asking to sort it out but he’s just backed off more.
It’s been four days. Does he just need time to cool down?
DEIDRE SAYS: I do get your outrage but this is an area where couples can have very different views.
Send one more message, saying you are sorry if you came across as insecure, then leave it.
Give him another week if you feel you had a real connection.
If he doesn’t contact you, it’s clear he didn’t see your relationship as having a future.
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