DEAR DEIDRE: I’M having sex with my neighbour but worry it is too close to home. We still both live with our parents.
I am a girl of 22 and he is 23. We have had sex a few times and he really wants us to have an open relationship but I feel awkward with us being neighbours.
If we broke up, I would still have to see him every day.
My parents don’t know that we like each other but his parents do and are happy with it.
It will feel really odd to tell my parents I am seeing “the boy next door”.
I do not like being secretive but I am not sure how to go about it.
DEIDRE SAYS: You are both adults and there is nothing wrong in you two having a relationship.
But tell your parents yourself – it is better for them to hear it from you than to risk letting them hear it through any neighbourly chat they may have with his parents.
They might be upset by your needless secrecy. Say that you are seeing each other but keep it low key for now.
If the relationship does develop, you can tell them more then.
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