I caught my husband cross-dressing and watching gay porn and I am freaking out
DEAR DEIDRE: I CAUGHT my husband cross-dressing and watching gay porn. I am freaking out worrying what to do about it.
He admits he was doing it before he met me. He insists he stopped when we got engaged but says he can’t resist cross-dressing now.
We are 38 and 39 and have been together ten years.
Fortunately we don’t have kids. He buys women’s clothing online and watches porn, mainly gay porn, but he looks at naked teenagers and children too.
I am very concerned about this but he insists he is not gay. I think it is disgusting but he says he is more turned on sexually if he is dressed up.
I think it is unfair that I have to put up with his weird habits.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband’s interest in gay sexuality and cross-dressing may be something you can resolve but real children actually suffer in the production of those images he’s viewing.
He should be reported to the police for downloading them by calling 101.
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Insist he seeks help through Stop It Now! which helps anyone who has worries about child sexual abuse (stopitnow.org.uk, 0808 1000 900). You can contact them too.
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