My partner of 25 years says he loves me but he never wants to have sex
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend says I am his babe but nothing happens in the bedroom because he’s always too tired or has a pain.
We have been together for 25 years and have always been very happy .
Our sex life used to be amazing, now it’s non-existent.
I’m 48 and he’s 49. I feel so rejected as he never notices me. I want to cry all the time. We have become so distant.
If I say anything, he says he loves me, that I am thinking silly things and need to stop.
Is it me, or does he just not fancy me any more?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is time to stop blaming yourself. He may be worried that he’s not action man any longer but is just not admitting it.
Tell him you love him whatever and suggest he sees the doctor to rule out an underlying medical condition that is making him tired and maybe causing his loss of libido.
My e-leaflet Reviving A Man’s Sex Drive explains.
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