DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I have stopped drinking alcohol, my wife says I am no longer the person she fell in love with. We are 28 and have been married for seven years, with sons of six and four. I have never been an alcoholic but I used to drink every weekend and some weekday evenings. […]
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I have stopped drinking alcohol, my wife says I am no longer the person she fell in love with.
We are 28 and have been married for seven years, with sons of six and four.
I have never been an alcoholic but I used to drink every weekend and some weekday evenings. Around a year ago I realised I was wasting my life and money.
I stopped drinking and I am far happier. I have more energy, more time for our children and more money.
My wife still drinks, which is fine by me, but she hates my sober lifestyle. She turns down invitations, saying she does not want to be seen with a weirdo.
She is so angry with me and has now told me that either I start drinking again or our marriage is over.
DEIDRE SAYS: Well done on quitting alcohol! Is your wife feeling defensive because your decision has highlighted her own dependency on alcohol?
Ask her why it is getting under her skin so much as splitting up would not be good news for your boys.
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