CHERYL revealed used to call herself nasty names and was her own harshest critic before seeking therapy. The 35-year-old admitted she felt angry at herself and wasn’t content with her life, despite her success and wealth, and turned to a therapist to change her mindset. Speaking in today’s Stella magazine, she said: “I went because […]
CHERYL revealed used to call herself nasty names and was her own harshest critic before seeking therapy.
The 35-year-old admitted she felt angry at herself and wasn’t content with her life, despite her success and wealth, and turned to a therapist to change her mindset.
Speaking in today’s Stella magazine, she said: “I went because I felt I owed it to Bear, owed it to myself, never to go back to having mindset. One of my friends recommended someone.
“I’ve been going to her for a year now for cognitive therapy, and I’m actively undoing all the bad thought patterns and traps I used to fall into.
“I would talk to myself so nastily: ‘You silly cow. You stupid b***h.’ No one could make me feel worse about myself than I did, and that was a massive problem. I haven’t slipped back. I still have that sense of knowing I’m happy, knowing I like my life, not feeling there’s some huge hole.”
Anxiety used to play a major factor in Cheryl’s life. She previously admitted she’d skip the chance to relive her teens and twenties again if she had the choice.
The singer previously explained she’s “lived on adrenaline and anxiety” since she was a teenager, and it disappeared as soon as she fell pregnant with Liam Payne’s baby.
She said: “It was teenage-related, environment-related anxiety.
“I hated being a teenager. I wouldn’t even go back through my twenties. I’d skip the lot and start at 30.”
Recalling how her anxiety subsided when she became pregnant, as she said: “I was so warm inside, and I found it amazing, I guess because I’ve lived on adrenaline and anxiety for so many years.
“I didn’t want the anxiety to come back. I wanted to stay in that strength. And it really has been helping a lot.”
In an interview with The Sunday Times’ Style magazine, Cheryl lifted the lid on her parenting style after having been intensely private about her son, who was born in March 2017.
The singer is a very hands on parent, admitting she found it odd when people suggested she get a nanny.
She explained: “The way I grew up, that’s so alien to me. Nobody had a nanny. We didn’t even have a babysitter.”
Shedding some light on Bear’s sleeping routine, she went on: “I’m going to get mum-shamed, aren’t I? But yes, he does [sleep in her bed]. Best thing in the world.
“I know I’m making a rod for my own back. I am aware of that. But when he was born, he used to sleep in the crib that you put on your bed, and then he never really left.”
While she hasn’t experienced mum-shaming herself, Cheryl had strong words for those who do critique other parents.
“I don’t want to give him insecurities or a feeling like I’m not around. But at the same time I don’t judge anybody that does the crying-out thing. Do what works for you, and the rest of you shut the f*** up, because it’s not your business, is it?
“I haven’t experienced it, because I haven’t done an interview [since Bear was born], so I have no idea. But I read about other people being mum-shamed and I think, get a life, deal with your own kids, why are you interfering in everyone else’s?”
She took four years out of the limelight before the release of comeback single Love Made Me Do It, revealing she needed it for her own well-being.
She explained on Jessie Ware’s Table Manners podcast: “I needed it for my sanity. I honestly didn’t know how much I needed it until I did it. I’d just had enough.
“I wasn’t inspired, I was jaded. It felt like a negative space I was living in and then you get to the point where it’s like ‘What is the point?’
“I could be doing something I hate doing and feel the same way, so why am I like putting myself through this? I like a balance. I like peace and harmony in my life.”
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