My wife says she’ll leave me if I don’t stop abusing alcohol immediately
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife is threatening to leave me unless I stop drinking entirely.
I am 29, my wife is 30 and we have been married for three years. I drank daily when we met – just a couple of cans in the evening.
She became very annoyed at this and asked me to cut down, which I did, to three evenings a week.
Now she thinks this is not enough. She says I have an alcohol problem and I risk losing her unless I stop drinking completely.
It is my way of relaxing. I do not see it as a problem because I never have any trouble waking up, doing my job or helping round the house.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Depending on the strength of the beer, you appear to be drinking about 12 units a week, which is within the NHS guidelines.
Ask her calmly why she is so bothered about it.
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Find out if she is unhappy about something else between you.
Or did she grow up in a family where someone had an alcohol problem?
If you can work out why she is so worried, you can more easily reassure her.