DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though we make love for half an hour or more, my wife doesn’t climax most times we have sex. I feel guilty when I do and she doesn’t.
The other problem is that it is almost always me who has to take the first move to have sex. This makes me think maybe she does it just as a duty, although she does seem to enjoy it when we get going.
I have good erections and can last for half an hour.
We have been married for eight years and have a small son and a daughter. I don’t want to leave this problem for much longer as I am 34 and my wife is 33, and I worry we will be too old to change.
DEIDRE SAYS: Prolonged intercourse is not what is most enjoyable for most women or most likely to result in orgasm.
The area at the front of the vagina, around the clitoris, is the most sensitive, not inside.
Find out from her where and how she enjoys being touched, then build on that. My e-leaflet Women And Orgasm explains self-help sex therapy.
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