DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancé keeps messaging his ex asking her if she’s happy. I’m worried.
We’re both 26 and we have a three-month-old daughter. I thought our family life was good but then I found he had been messaging his ex because she was having problems after she married a guy on the rebound from my fiancé.
I thought he was just being kind but now I have found out they message every day. He might have met her too.
DEIDRE SAYS: These are early days for your little family and it’s not surprising you are finding this threatening.
Say you understand he may still feel fond of his ex and worried for her, but that you should offer support as a couple if that’s what she needs. Invite her round.
And are you including him in looking after your little girl? Make sure he’s not feeling pushed out.
Look after your relationship too. Make the most of times when your baby is asleep to have a meal together, watch your favourite TV show or have sex if you’re up to it.
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