DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner will not agree to stop living with his mum.
I am 29, he is 33. He didn’t get on with his stepdad, who kicked him out six years ago. He moved in with me and my parents and we eventually got our own place.
We heard nothing from his mother until last year when her husband left her and stopped paying his half of the mortgage.
She asked us to move in with her so that she would not lose her home. I reluctantly agreed.
Now we’re stuck. She is 49 but she refuses to get a job and charges us £800 rent a month, so it is impossible for us to save for our own home.
I feel so used but what can I do?
DEIDRE SAYS: Have a serious talk with your partner and ask why he believes your hopes of a home together should be sacrificed to save his mother getting a job.
Maybe you could reconfigure the house so that it is more like two separate flats.
My e-leaflet Standing Up For Yourself can help you do just that.
If your partner won’t even try to find a compromise, would you be better off with someone who will put you first?
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