POWERHOUSE activist, feminist and dominatrix Chidera Eggerue joined ‘We Need To Talk’ podcast to reveal all the juiciest details of making money as ‘Goddess Gina’.
She joined host Paul C. Brunson to explain how she’s become so successful in the sex work industry despite not bedding her clients.
Paul broached the subject candidly, admitting: “I always, ignorantly, associated being a dominatrix with sex or BDSM, but you haven’t had sex in four years.
“So can you explain, what is BDSM?”
Chidera replied: “BDSM is all about exploring power dynamics between yourself and consenting partners.
“Consent is the overarching key word in all of this, everything is entirely consensual and it’s about exploring kink in a way that feels safe.”
Chidera uses the persona ‘Goddess Gina’ for her sex work (who she insists is also just her real self).
But where does Goddess Gina meet submissive men?
“There are such things as ‘play parties’, which are parties that are put on for people in the kink community.
“Even in non-BDSM environments, there are subtle signs (you can tell a man is submissive).
“For example, if I’m on the train and I have one leg crossed over the other and I’m twirling my shoe or it’s sandal season, so your toes are visible, and I notice the man sat in front of me keeps looking at my feet, I like to test to see if he’s submissive.
“I might hold eye contact with him briefly and then look at my feet again to see if he goes red.
“Men can also identify a dominant woman, without her saying anything.
“Just by her demeanour.”
Chidera went on to explain how sex doesn’t have to come into play: “So, what’s interesting is we (dominatrixes) don’t have sex with the men.
“If at all, we do something called chastity.
“There’s a thing called a chastity cage, it’s a little apparatus the man can wear on his penis and it’s locked, so the woman holds the key and his penis is quite literally locked.”
“And that’s for a duration of time that’s agreed upon by him and the mistress.”
So if Goddess Gina isn’t having sex with her clients, what do they pay for?
“This could take place in an environment like a dungeon, although it could even be a hotel room.
“It’s where all the equipment and tools are, so you can carry out the kinks like flogging or foot worship.
“You can also make them kneel down and face the wall – there are men who will pay you to just ignore them.”
“If you’re edging someone, it’s normally the idea of when the person’s close to having an orgasm and you stop so that the sex can last longer.
“But in BDSM, especially in the context of a dominatrix and her submissive man, edging him is while he’s locked in chastity and you’re making him do things that are of service to you.
“It can range from you making him carry out household chores, him being obedient and you rewarding him with a pat on the head and saying ‘good boy’.
“Making him kiss your feet, instructing him to pleasure you orally, and again – all while he’s locked.
“So he’s psychologically in a place where he’s of service to you and he’s also very excited.”
“If they meet me on Twitter they have to pay a £100 tribute fee as an introduction fee.
“That money is just for them to have permission to introduce themselves to me and that tribute fee doesn’t grant them anything.
“They’re not entitled to my time, it’s just a gesture of them honoring the opportunity to say hello to me and say ‘hello goddess, this is who I am, I find you beautiful and I would like to serve you’.
“I attract a lot of men who want to be financially dominated.
“This is where men enjoy being told what to do with their money by women they find powerful.”
You can find Chidera’s Instagram, here.
By Emma Kenny, a TV presenter and psychologist
Raucous Role Play: If your partner enjoys dressing up for fun, it shows creativity and a desire to keep things exciting. However, it might signal that he struggles with responsibility.
Multi-Partner Fantasies: Craving variety doesn’t always mean he wants to cheat. However, it could indicate deeper feelings of unfulfillment.
Power & Control: A little dominance is normal, but if it’s always about control, it may hide insecurities.
Adventure: Men seeking thrills may push boundaries, so be sure your comfort zone is respected.
Passion: If he’s romantic, he’s emotionally tuned in—though occasionally avoiding tough conversations.
Flexibility: Openness to new experiences is great, but constant novelty-seeking could mean avoiding emotional connection.
Red Flag: If control is his ultimate fantasy, it may signal a deeper struggle with power dynamics.
