DEAR DEIDRE: THE woman I fell for used me to make her ex jealous, and I can’t get over it.
She took me to a party she knew her ex would be at, and cruelly flirted with me just to get his attention.
I’m 28 and she’s 30. We met at work and I was instantly attracted to her.
She’s gorgeous and really smart.
Over time, we got friendly, and I asked her out.
She told me she was just out of a relationship so wanted to take things slowly, which I accepted.
Last weekend, she asked if I’d like to come to her friend’s party.
I was really happy as I thought it meant we were becoming official, and I would meet her mates.
What she didn’t say was that her ex would be there with his new girlfriend.
The whole evening, she was all over me, holding my hand and dancing close with me, just so he would notice.
Her ex didn’t take the bait, and left with his new girlfriend.
Then she said she wanted to leave too. She asked me to drop her home and didn’t even kiss me.
I feel embarrassed and hurt. It’s clear she just used me to make him jealous.
It’s been really bugging me, and I don’t seem to be able to move on.
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DEIDRE SAYS: She probably didn’t mean to hurt or use you. But she behaved selfishly, and clearly isn’t over her ex.
Rebound relationships rarely work.
I know it hurts, but it’s better that you found out now before you got more deeply involved.
Time will make this easier. My support pack, Moving On, should help you to get over her.
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