DEAR DEIDRE: MY sex-obsessed boyfriend has even tried to seduce my mum.
When she first told me that he’d gone into the kitchen while she was washing up, approached her close from behind and whispered in her ear that he was desperate to have her, I wanted to assume she was joking.
But he has got form so I couldn’t deny what she was telling me. It shattered my heart. How could he do this to me?
I’m 25, my boyfriend is 32 and mum is 48. We’ve been together for three years and have just moved into our first house together.
Soon after, the cracks in the relationship began to show.
We have an attractive neighbour who’s a similar age to me.
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She lives with her parents, but ever since we moved in, my boyfriend can’t stay away from her.
He would often flirt with her over the fence, and when I snooped through his phone, I found out they’d slept together.
He admitted he’d got carried away after meeting her in a bar one night but blamed me — saying I wasn’t giving him enough sex to satisfy his needs.
Yet we’ve always had a very active sex life, to the point where we sometimes had sex several times a day.
Instead of ending it, we decided to work on our relationship, but now he has proved it was all for nothing.
He’s used the same old excuse of having too much to drink and that my mum’s a “Milf” but the reality is he is obsessed with sex. He’s shattered my self-confidence, and I keep asking myself: what is wrong with me?
My boyfriend insists he wants a committed relationship but has spent most of his adult life single and sleeping around.
I’ve tried to leave, but he’s using his mental health to manipulate me into staying.
I pictured us building our own home and having two or three children. Now I can’t even stand the sight of him.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: You know this man is not right for you. He has cheated and even tried to seduce your own mother.
Manipulating you into staying also shows what kind of person he is. You deserve someone who doesn’t cheat, who is loyal, and who treats you and your family with respect.
I normally encourage couples to try to work through infidelity but this man does not seem capable.
My support pack Ending A Relationship will help you to leave him, while my pack Standing Up For Yourself will help you to be more assertive.
Finally, my pack on Raising Self-Esteem will help you get your confidence back and feel more positive about yourself.
