DEAR DEIDRE: I was having a passionate fling with an older woman at work, but then we broke it off so I could date her niece. Trouble is, the auntie is now pregnant – and I’m the dad.
I’m 26 and work as a mechanic for a car dealership. This older lady is 40 and a service manager there.
She looks great for her age and all the guys in the garage fancy her.
One evening, her car wouldn’t start.
I got it going and rather than me having to catch the train as usual, she offered me a lift.
She came in for a drink at my flat and there was lots of sexual chemistry, so I kissed her.
She responded and we ended up spending the night together.
She was an experienced lover and taught me a thing or two.
We both agreed that because of our age gap we’d be sex buddies and no more.
But at Easter, we had our annual family day at work and my lover’s niece was there.
She’s 22 and I fancied her.
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Afterwards, my lover said she could see there was something between me and her niece and that she’d never hold me back, so I decided to ask her niece out.
My girlfriend’s aunt and I agreed we’d keep our friends-with-benefits arrangement private.
Then we had sex once more for old time’s sake.
Her niece and I have been going out now for six weeks and I feel she could be the girl of my dreams.
Her aunt and I have returned to a purely professional relationship but at work last week, she told me she was pregnant and I’m the dad.
We were both single at the time but I don’t know how my girlfriend will take the news.
Also, if I went on to marry my girlfriend, my child would be my wife’s cousin.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s a mess.
I’ll spare you the lecture about unprotected sex as you’re already paying the high price.
Is your ex-lover sure she’s going ahead with this pregnancy?
She may feel her biological clock ticking but she must feel confident she can cope as a single parent.
Secrets have a habit of coming out so if she’s determined to go ahead, you’ll have to tell your girlfriend.
If you stay together, you’ll need to prepare yourself for potential criticism from within the family.
My support pack called Unplanned Pregnancy will show you where to find emotional assistance.
