DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE really fallen for another guy – but I was left reeling when we were talking about Christmas presents the other day.
I joked I was going to buy him the new iPhone as I like spoiling those I love.
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He said, “No, let’s stick to a £100 limit. We’re only mates.” I feel devastated.
I am a guy of 32 and this friend is 27. He started texting me out of work, flirting, and we started sending one another nude pictures. I had thought he was straight and I know he has had girlfriends.
He came to my house once to watch a film and we were curled up on the settee and started kissing.
We have been intimate, and it’s happened lots since.
He’s loving when we are together but at work he’s one of the lads and banters about girls he likes. I don’t know where I am with him now.
DEIDRE SAYS: You are his guilty secret and he is not prepared to come out about his sexuality.
You are only going to get hurt further if you let him keep using you like this. If he makes overtures to you again, say, “No, we’re just mates.”
Look elsewhere for a relationship.
